by Hemchhaya De | April 28, 2017, 12:00 AM IST
Not too long ago a global study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, covering about 1500 men and women, showed that 47 per cent of women preferred dominating someone sexually while a little over 50 per cent were okay with being tied up for pleasure. In other words, experts maintain, sexual choices in many cases can go well beyond heterosexual missionary position only. Kinky sex is an accepted way of giving or receiving pleasure in a relationship. Experts say that ensuring 'aftercare' is an equally important part of the experience. 'Aftercare' - which, to put it simply, connotes ensuring comfort of your sexual partner - is a kind of specialised term. But here are some broad guidelines regarding how to get closer to your partner after a night of wild pleasure:
Moments to recover
After an intense sexual experience, experts say one can feel within a heady cocktail of emotions. It can be a veritable high. As the protagonist in '50 Shades of Grey' puts it, there can be a lot of graceful cartwheels in your head. Experts say that it can be a cathartic experience for some as well - so just lying down or curling up or cuddling can be desirable.
Physical injury
Needless to say, one should ensure whether the experience has caused any injury or not.
Assessing the experience
There should be a frank discussion after the experience regarding what was palatable and what could have gone wrong.
Doing away with shame
Experts say that one should also ensure that his or her partner is not feeling totally uncomfortable with the experience. A feeling of shame can be overpowering in some cases.
Planning further
Sexual compatibility doesn't quite mean that both partners should share the exact kind of fantasies and fetishes. For your next adventure, plan things that can be comfortable for both and there's consent. Such discussions can lead to a heightened sense of fulfilment.
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