There
is too much tendency to believe that sexuality is a purely masculine
act ... whereas the woman has only a passive (or even a "victim") role. It's absolutely grotesque! Sexual action must be a perfect cooperation in which both partners are actively involved.
For a man, what is the Sexual Power ?
It is the possibility of carrying out the sexual act, taking into account his partner , of course. Sexual power can be divided into several factors:
Physical desire properly so called.
- The possibility of erection, which must occur at the right time.
- The power of erection essential for penetration.
- The ability to "wait" for the partner to reach a maximum.
- Ejaculation and orgasm, followed by perfect relaxation and a sense of deep joy.
It is here that man comes up against a pitiless law! He is powerful ... or impotent, no half measures. He will be powerful only if he is able to realize his own sexuality as well as that of his partner. Many men are capable of erection and penetration but unable to maintain this erection until the end of the act, or erection takes place but disappears as soon as the penetration begins. These are cases of "partial impotence"; Therefore of impotence.
These impotences often make the despair of the men who are affected; They are practically always psychological.
That it must be the normal duration of the sexual act ?
In principle (except in abnormal cases), the act must last until the woman has attained satisfaction. Man is therefore obliged to adjust his behavior to that of his partner. And this, because of the natural rapidity of his own satisfaction.
It is here that many men apply the law of their own pleasure, unless, of course, they are not abnormal cases: it is impossible to keep the erection or ejaculation too fast. However, they may have an excuse ... Some women (and they are numerous) hide whether or not they have achieved satisfaction. This feminine behavior is often neurotic.
They often play comedy, sometimes throughout their lives; So skillfully that "man sees only fire," but it is not a generality!
These female attitudes are commonly caused by frigidity, fear of disappointing her husband, shame, etc ...
Moreover, it should not be forgotten that most women slowly arrive at sexual enjoyment. For man, therefore, there is a "question of technique" which is absolutely necessary and necessary for the extension of the sexual act. A half-hour of erection without failure is a normal duration, which very few can achieve.
This prolonged erection training is often justified, I repeat, by the slowness of the partner. Training must be physical and mental (especially self-control).
I invite all women in pairs to participate in this male training (if the man accepts), without judgments or taboos! This participation helps to secure man in his quest for sexual enhancement, it also contributes to a better mutual understanding of the problems of both partners and to the appearance of the true pleasure resulting from the "fusion" Of the couple.
A solid couple evolves like a set! One should not immediately demand perfection in the other. It is with time that the couple improves in sexuality as in life, like the good wine! One never gets anything in the "all, right away". Those who understand it are more likely to succeed in their private lives.
What are the common causes of male sexual problems ?
Fear, feelings of inferiority, repressions, complexities, are the common causes of sexual disorders. These manifest themselves as soon as "mental virility" is broken or diminished, or if the subject remains attached to previous situations related to sexuality.
We often meet :
- Fixation to situations of childhood or adolescence.
- Attachment to the mother or father, excessively frequent.
- Rigid or conformist education.
- Fear of the other sex (for various reasons).
- Lack of self-confidence, shyness.
- Impossibility of giving up, hyper-emotionalism.
These men are then in a state of "psychic loneliness" . They are incapable of getting out of themselves and of letting go ... It is often found that psychic loneliness is the fact of adolescents and that most men with sexual disorders are still, somewhere in them, Stuck in adolescence; The "paternal and masculine" power , this Tranquil Force , could not be reached!
It is then the game of false men, stuck in appearance and self-control. In this state of compensation (perfectionism, authoritarianism, too much or little narcissism), no spontaneity is possible, therefore no letting go and abandoning oneself to the things of love ...
In conclusion: the feminine and masculine symbolism.
I spoke in the feminine sexuality of the " great mantle of affectivity ." What does it mean? Why this symbolism?
Woman always represents (despite this perpetual feeling of being inferior to man) the grace, the depth, the refuge, the sweetness ... that we all seek! And men, however powerful they seem, are incapable of living without the depth and affection which women give them. This need goes back since very small, when we were then only children ...
Indeed, the mother is the first woman in our life. It provides for our well-being in the first moments of our existence; it is therefore a great symbol of life; And the inferiority complex begins here, most of the time:
The child is facing this feminine ocean of love and tenderness, and feels helpless in front of him, the woman appears to him as superior but also dangerous because she holds the "Emotional Power "! Power that can be withdrawn or maintained, according to education and the goodwill of the mother. What will the child do? If the mother is endowed with unconditional love , the child will feel protected and surrounded and he will grow up trusting the women and in himself.
On the other hand, if the mother is neurotic or complex, the child will submit to the maternal requirements (to be a good boy, to be wise, to stay close to Mother, to play the perfect child) to preserve love and tenderness. The drama then appears: the child will grow in the idea that it is always necessary to be better and develop a false personality (as seen above) ... To sum up, in front of a woman, he will always feel subjected to rigid conditions And will demand of him the best, which he can never attain! He will remain like a child, while repressing this fragile part of him. Shared between the love and the anger that he will experience, anguish will finally be his daily bread. Anxiety that he will try to appease through an inappropriate lifestyle or by showing outward signs of wealth, for example.
And father? What is its role ?
The father, this sun ... Powerful and magnificent, the very example of authority; And not of authoritarianism, if it suffers from a neurosis!
If the education chain (see the article on education) is well built, the father will be wise and understanding, he will recognize his child's abilities , and will give him confidence in him ... But if The father is rigid or dictatorial, he will break his child and this child will grow up in a constant feeling of failure. The impression of being a sub-man will chase him through adulthood and he will feel inferior to all, men and women at once!
As a result, how could the child have sexual virility if he does not possess mental virility ... So we see the importance, once again, of a good education, flexible and rigorous at the same time. We also note how precious the relationship with the mother and the father is to prevent the child from growing in a state of emotional deprivation (for the mother) or lack of reference (for the father).
I would like to say this to all parents : " Do not pass on your emotional wounds to your children! I hope that you can break the chain of education if it is pernicious in the interests of your descendants. We almost all have mental or sexual deviations, denying it would be a lie. Sometimes, daring to evoke it allows to preserve his family and his close relations, the withdrawal on oneself brings only misfortune and solitude! "
For a man, what is the Sexual Power ?
It is the possibility of carrying out the sexual act, taking into account his partner , of course. Sexual power can be divided into several factors:
Physical desire properly so called.
- The possibility of erection, which must occur at the right time.
- The power of erection essential for penetration.
- The ability to "wait" for the partner to reach a maximum.
- Ejaculation and orgasm, followed by perfect relaxation and a sense of deep joy.
It is here that man comes up against a pitiless law! He is powerful ... or impotent, no half measures. He will be powerful only if he is able to realize his own sexuality as well as that of his partner. Many men are capable of erection and penetration but unable to maintain this erection until the end of the act, or erection takes place but disappears as soon as the penetration begins. These are cases of "partial impotence"; Therefore of impotence.
These impotences often make the despair of the men who are affected; They are practically always psychological.
That it must be the normal duration of the sexual act ?
In principle (except in abnormal cases), the act must last until the woman has attained satisfaction. Man is therefore obliged to adjust his behavior to that of his partner. And this, because of the natural rapidity of his own satisfaction.
It is here that many men apply the law of their own pleasure, unless, of course, they are not abnormal cases: it is impossible to keep the erection or ejaculation too fast. However, they may have an excuse ... Some women (and they are numerous) hide whether or not they have achieved satisfaction. This feminine behavior is often neurotic.
They often play comedy, sometimes throughout their lives; So skillfully that "man sees only fire," but it is not a generality!
These female attitudes are commonly caused by frigidity, fear of disappointing her husband, shame, etc ...
Moreover, it should not be forgotten that most women slowly arrive at sexual enjoyment. For man, therefore, there is a "question of technique" which is absolutely necessary and necessary for the extension of the sexual act. A half-hour of erection without failure is a normal duration, which very few can achieve.
This prolonged erection training is often justified, I repeat, by the slowness of the partner. Training must be physical and mental (especially self-control).
I invite all women in pairs to participate in this male training (if the man accepts), without judgments or taboos! This participation helps to secure man in his quest for sexual enhancement, it also contributes to a better mutual understanding of the problems of both partners and to the appearance of the true pleasure resulting from the "fusion" Of the couple.
A solid couple evolves like a set! One should not immediately demand perfection in the other. It is with time that the couple improves in sexuality as in life, like the good wine! One never gets anything in the "all, right away". Those who understand it are more likely to succeed in their private lives.
What are the common causes of male sexual problems ?
Fear, feelings of inferiority, repressions, complexities, are the common causes of sexual disorders. These manifest themselves as soon as "mental virility" is broken or diminished, or if the subject remains attached to previous situations related to sexuality.
We often meet :
- Fixation to situations of childhood or adolescence.
- Attachment to the mother or father, excessively frequent.
- Rigid or conformist education.
- Fear of the other sex (for various reasons).
- Lack of self-confidence, shyness.
- Impossibility of giving up, hyper-emotionalism.
These men are then in a state of "psychic loneliness" . They are incapable of getting out of themselves and of letting go ... It is often found that psychic loneliness is the fact of adolescents and that most men with sexual disorders are still, somewhere in them, Stuck in adolescence; The "paternal and masculine" power , this Tranquil Force , could not be reached!
It is then the game of false men, stuck in appearance and self-control. In this state of compensation (perfectionism, authoritarianism, too much or little narcissism), no spontaneity is possible, therefore no letting go and abandoning oneself to the things of love ...
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After raising some strong reactions, I would like to clarify an incomprehension :
The mental manhood remains unrelated to the male physique. It must be understood that a "virile man" and complete, even ill or weakened, will always remain "manly and complete".
A man can cut down a lot of work, build houses, cut many trees and prove to the whole world that he is a "true man of truth" : if his gaze has not turned to his real weaknesses, Acceptance of these, the "true of truth" will remain an eternal adolescent in search of masculine. The strong man is the one who dares to see himself as he is!
Some
will say that having weaknesses is feminising ... but without an ounce
of femininity in us, how could we understand women and share happiness and satisfaction with them?
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In conclusion: the feminine and masculine symbolism.
I spoke in the feminine sexuality of the " great mantle of affectivity ." What does it mean? Why this symbolism?
Woman always represents (despite this perpetual feeling of being inferior to man) the grace, the depth, the refuge, the sweetness ... that we all seek! And men, however powerful they seem, are incapable of living without the depth and affection which women give them. This need goes back since very small, when we were then only children ...
Indeed, the mother is the first woman in our life. It provides for our well-being in the first moments of our existence; it is therefore a great symbol of life; And the inferiority complex begins here, most of the time:
The child is facing this feminine ocean of love and tenderness, and feels helpless in front of him, the woman appears to him as superior but also dangerous because she holds the "Emotional Power "! Power that can be withdrawn or maintained, according to education and the goodwill of the mother. What will the child do? If the mother is endowed with unconditional love , the child will feel protected and surrounded and he will grow up trusting the women and in himself.
On the other hand, if the mother is neurotic or complex, the child will submit to the maternal requirements (to be a good boy, to be wise, to stay close to Mother, to play the perfect child) to preserve love and tenderness. The drama then appears: the child will grow in the idea that it is always necessary to be better and develop a false personality (as seen above) ... To sum up, in front of a woman, he will always feel subjected to rigid conditions And will demand of him the best, which he can never attain! He will remain like a child, while repressing this fragile part of him. Shared between the love and the anger that he will experience, anguish will finally be his daily bread. Anxiety that he will try to appease through an inappropriate lifestyle or by showing outward signs of wealth, for example.
And father? What is its role ?
The father, this sun ... Powerful and magnificent, the very example of authority; And not of authoritarianism, if it suffers from a neurosis!
If the education chain (see the article on education) is well built, the father will be wise and understanding, he will recognize his child's abilities , and will give him confidence in him ... But if The father is rigid or dictatorial, he will break his child and this child will grow up in a constant feeling of failure. The impression of being a sub-man will chase him through adulthood and he will feel inferior to all, men and women at once!
As a result, how could the child have sexual virility if he does not possess mental virility ... So we see the importance, once again, of a good education, flexible and rigorous at the same time. We also note how precious the relationship with the mother and the father is to prevent the child from growing in a state of emotional deprivation (for the mother) or lack of reference (for the father).
I would like to say this to all parents : " Do not pass on your emotional wounds to your children! I hope that you can break the chain of education if it is pernicious in the interests of your descendants. We almost all have mental or sexual deviations, denying it would be a lie. Sometimes, daring to evoke it allows to preserve his family and his close relations, the withdrawal on oneself brings only misfortune and solitude! "
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